Now she only wants to wear those penguin Tevas everywhere. No interest in her new Ked tennis shoes or Striderite sandals that now fit her. Yesterday as I was forcing her Keds, she looked at me and said
NNNOOOO!!! I proceeded to put her shoe on.
It's too big! She says, right at me, persuasive.
I looked accusingly at Spacedaddy, who was sitting right next to her:
Did you tell her that?!As shocked as I was, he defended himself:
No! I've never said that!! (Laughing).
Ah-ha! This explains why her penguin sandals came back from school her first day all strapped super tight so they were leaving marks. And I wasn't too happy about it. Apparently, her teachers thought
it's too big.I'm sure they must know it's about that time where Anna will be coming home repeating what they say :) I'm almost scared to hear what she comes back with next.
Today I got the same shoe fight. She ended up wearing Penguin Tevas with socks, none of which matched her outfit.
I've heard about this.
Here we go.Now I know why parents buy their kids Dora undies. Elmos back-packs. Princess shoes.
But she is definitely at the stage of which she's exerting her control. I hope this passes soon (ha, right?). Everything is NOOOOO unless it's her idea. She's more difficult to persuade now and wising to the fact that she can make some of her own choices.
She got Time out twice last week. She sat in the chair for 2 minutes, each time. Both times it was for throwing something. Granted, she was beyond tired when she did it, but frankly, I am not allowed to throw crap when I'm tired and cranky. So that's the way the world works.
Yesterday Paul brought home a Toyota Scion he's thinking about buying for the clinic. When he opened the back trunk, Anna says:
"Nanee's!!" She was right: it did look like the trunk of Nanee's Toyota 4Runner. Anna last saw the trunk of that 4Runner when she stayed with Paul's parents for a few days while we were in Colorado last November. I thought it was super, super cool that she remembered that.
We walked by the neighborhood pool last week and she said, "swimming pool! Splash, splash, splash!" The last time she'd been in that pool was last summer.
Babies do remember. I thought she'd forgotten all that stuff but no, it's there at least for a little while longer. I think it's amazing. Because now that she can tell us what's on her mind, she is! How cool is that? It's like wondering what your pets would say if they could talk.
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Last weekend while Paul was at work, I braved taking Anna grocery shopping with me. It's a source of anxiety for me such that the child has only come along with me on maybe 3 other occasions. Back then she was happy to sit in the cart and chew on an apple.
If you know me you know I hate grocery shopping.
I have had a fear of Anna acting like such the fool, I'd have to leave all my groceries and run out of the store before I could complete my mission.
Therefore, she usually stays home with Spacedaddy and I go at night while she's sleeping. Not exactly the most fun thing I want to be doing after a full day at work...I'd pay someone to grocery shop for me if I had the money.
Anyway, I decided that she was becoming such a big girl, that I would attempt to take her on a quick grocery run this weekend. Just enough to pick up a few things. She doesn't like to sit in the cart so much these days so Paul usually lets her push the cart when he takes her places. At our Kroger, there are the little kid metal carts. I went straight to those with her since it was just big enough for her to push the minimal stuff we needed.
She did great! She behaved herself and followed me wherever I told her to turn. She weilded that cart pretty easily. She put the stuff in the cart when I asked her to. She picked out some nacho rice cakes for herself and when she asked for other chips later, I reminded her she already picked some out. She helped to place the items on the belt for check-out.
Granted, it was only one trip but it was encouraging enough to help me over the anxiety of grocery shopping with a toddler such that I may begin to bring her along more often. I know they won't all go so well but I'd be happy with winning some, losing some.
Since that went so well, I took her to Bed Bath and Beyond and shoe shopping and out to lunch the next day. We had a full weekend. For those of you moms who are braver than me, or Stay-At-Home moms who take your kids everwhere without even thinking about it, you probably think my little achievements this weekend are kinda lame. But for me, they're pretty monumental.
I'm not sure where the shopping with baby/toddler anxiety comes from. May stem from the fact that she screamed her head off for the first 2 months of her life, which scared me badly enough that it flowed over into never being comfortable taking her anywhere (even though that was such a small part of her life)...or it may stem from the horrible tantrum stage that I know toddlers go through. You've seen it in the stores, people. She's not a major tantrum thrower on a regular basis, but she
can throw one as good as any other toddler out there.
I know it will happen. The day will come when I say NO in a store and she loses it. I'll get the accusatory stares from the moms with the "good" kids, and the empathetic stares from the moms who have gone through it before. From the non-parents, I'll get the looks that I'm a bad mom, or that my kid's a spoiled brat. You get the idea.
So the grocery cart business of last weekend was a major breakthrough for me. Kudos to me! Kudos to both of us!